S2E35: Protecting Your Peace after Unimaginable Loss - with Haley Kilman

In today’s episode, I’m joined by Haley Kilman, a connection I’m incredibly grateful for through a referral from my former boss and friend, Eric Swanson. Haley is a poised, thoughtful, and resilient young woman who brought so much honesty and depth to our conversation.

Haley shares her journey through personal adversity, including past struggles with depression, but nothing could have prepared her for the devastating loss she experienced just last December. Her live-in boyfriend—soon to be her fiancé—was tragically killed in a cycling accident near their home after being hit by a drunk driver. As you can imagine, the grief is still very fresh, and Haley is continuing to navigate the emotional and practical realities of losing not just a partner, but the life they were building together.

Despite the unimaginable weight of her loss, Haley courageously opens up in hopes of helping others feel less alone. She offers insight into the often-overlooked realities that come with losing a significant other—things many of us never think about until faced with them.

We also talk about the importance of community. Haley reflects on the incredible support system surrounding her and emphasizes how vital it is to nurture friendships long before you need them.

She closes the episode with heartfelt advice on how to show up for someone going through grief—what helps, what doesn’t, and how simply being present can make all the difference.

This conversation is raw, meaningful, and deeply human. A powerful reminder that even in our darkest moments, connection and support can help guide us forward—one day at a time.